A LITTLE STORY ABOUT WHAT IT IS LIKE TO HAVE A CHILD WITH SPECIAL NEEDS

One of the amazing women, named Tara, that I met that last Saturday night  invited me to read some of  her daughter's blog about some of the intensive therapy that she has done (because I'm starting to research about it for Emmalin for next year).  While I was reading about all of that, I ran across this poem/story.  I thought it had a very different, but incredible, way of explaining what it feels like to have a child with special needs.  So as she decided to share this poem/story with all of her friends and family, I too would like to share it with all of you.

Welcome to Holland

by Emily Perl Kingsley

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability-to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this.......................

When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip-to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland".

"Holland?!?!" you say, "What do you mean "Holland"??? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy!"

But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.

So you must go and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there far a while and you catch your breath, you look around.......and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy...and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away...because the loss of that dream is a very significant loss.

But...if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things...about Holland.

I am so thankful for for my faith and the people God has placed in my life who started their own journey with their children before us. You have all been so supportive and I appreciate all the valuable wisdom you have give me.